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Self-Preservation Two: “Privilege” (countertype)

This subtype is cute and has an attractive (in terms of beauty and possessions) stance. People would envy the SP2 because he is too youthful. The unconscious strategy the SP2 employs is to "seduce" like a child (you can picture a baby crying and asking help for the selfish 2 or children giving toys and playing, manifesting innocence for the selfless 2). There is a sense that children, specifically the new daughter or son of a family, are naturally loveable, inherently deserving of affection, and usually more readily liked than adults and grown-ups.

This 2 has a childlike quality in presentation and emotional expression. This 2 "remains little" as a way of evoking care from others without having to ask for it, just as children shouldn't have to ask for love and care or aren't mature enough to articulate this kind of request directly. This is their way of expressing the idea that, deep down, they want to be loved not for being pleasing or giving to others, or because of qualifications, performance, or achievements, but just because of who they are; they want to be loved for just existing.

SP2’s pattern has this person taking the position of the child in the family because a child's needs naturally come first. Pride is understood as priority and a special emphasis. Despite wanting to be the center of attention, they may experience no accompanying feeling of having to do anything for it. Or they want to be seen without showing themselves, therefore they can be hardworking in some sense.

They excel at being the favorite one of someone or the pet of someone. SP2 is more fearful, less trusting, and more ambivalent about connections with others, out of survival. This subtype has an enhanced sentimentality, sensitivity, and resembles the 8 in many ways.

They can be merging with a partner or being hedonist ignorant people, tends to gather a lot of attention when in public and can be pushy, docile or controlling. Their behaviour often leads to making poor decisions, not thinking much to get what they want, and then they can throw tantrums or act out if things don't go their way.

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